Over the last few years of toying with this decision, to become a mom on my own, I had to go through stages of acceptance - and grief - that the man I dreamed would be a part of my life, would not be a part of starting my family.
When I first talked about this as an option (with friends or my doctor) I would have a difficult time holding back tears. For me, part of moving past my thinking and 'false starts' was the path to acceptance that I was okay, and even happy about having a child on my own. As I moved into acceptance I also knew it would mean a period of not dating - during my trying, pregnancy and early motherhood.
Of course a few weeks ago, as you would expect, a man presents himself to me as a suitor. I was up front with him about my journey and explained the complexities of even considering getting involved. I was not willing to share my journey (intimately) with someone who was not a close part of my life. He was very accepting of my situation and still wanted to spend time with me. When it came down to it, I found that I was flattered by his attention but not feeling connected, merely distracted.
All of the women I've met, myself included, have postponed our plans in the past for a potential mate... and lost years in that process. I've met others who have had boyfriends (not wanting children) when they move into this process. Another woman talked about dating someone while she was pregnant and while she knew he wasn't right, he wouldn't accept her decision because he thought it was 'hormones'. Happily, I've met a few women who have met their "Mr. Right" after they became Mommies...
Anyone on this journey have an experience you would like to share about before, during or after dating?