Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mothers Day, Different Meanings for Different Experiences

First, Happy Mothers Day to those of you who are mothers and expectant mothers!  I hope you enjoy this day for everything that it is worth!!!

Second, my heart goes out to everyone who has lost their mother or may be estranged from their mother.  My own mother is such a blessing and support, I can't fathom not having my dear mother in my life so I know this day must be such a difficult reminder for you.

Third, I wish for peace to all of the mothers who have lost a child during or post pregnancy.  I have no words to express how unnatural and unfair this is for any mother to endure.

Next, I pray for blessings for those of us who desire with all of our hearts to be mothers but struggle with the pain of infertility.  Today, we must suffer through, endure and survive... (as I did last year) I have HOPE that by next Mother's Day, we'll all be able to celebrate BEING a mom!

Lastly, I leave you with a link to a touching post by Keiko to remember the childless, not by choice.  Her words hold so much truth in how I feel:

We may not have stayed up late when the kids wouldn't go to bed.  But we've stayed up late worrying about our transfers he next morning.  We've stayed up late wondering why the agency hasn't called.  Stayed up late wondering "how on earth are we going to pay for this?"
We may not have endured 20 hours of labor and a natural birth. But we've endured countless hours in stirrups, endless rounds of needles and herbal treatments and painful surgeries. And years of silence and shame.
We may not have brought our child to work but we've sacrificed careers to stay in jobs we hate just to maintain specific health insurance coverage, however crappy that coverage might be - but it's better than paying 100% out of pocket. 


  1. Happy mother's day to you -- may this be the last you spend without your baby! I think that the work of IF is so much harder than parenting. At least once your child is physically here you get some feedback and other people recognize the effort. With IF you do all that worry, stress, and sacrifice but you do it in the closet for the most part.

  2. Thank you for your poignant thoughts. Yes! Here's to next year BEING a mother! Warmth and good wishes to You today.

  3. Your mother sounds like a wonderful person to have in your life, especially now. I don't think I'll ever forget the pain and the struggle of this whole thing but I am so glad (and fortunate) to have connections with those going through the same thing at the same time. This day has been especially rough for me...thank you for the post.

  4. This is a beautiful post. You know I'm praying and wishing and dreaming for a beautiful baby for you very very soon.

  5. Hope is the most wonderful word. Thinking of you, BB - and continuing to believe with all my heart, that Mother's Day 2012 is going to be the first of many many Mother's Days for you.

  6. Beautiful post.. I want so badly for you get pregnant this next IVF... I will keep you in my thoughts. Hang tough.. we are all rooting for you everyday.

  7. I hope that this time next year we are carrying a child. Either in our bellies or in our arms!!


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