It's been too long but there is really no time to get online, let alone write up a post. We are still working on Ella's need to be held during the day (all day). We are able to get her down on her own for an hour or two every day, but other than that either Grandma or I are holding her, playing with her, trying to calm her. This is NOT a bad problem to have... given EVERYTHING we have been through in the last six months. Like I said in my last post, it just makes it hard to do anything other than the essentials.
Ella is doing really well. As of Thursday she is 10lb 9 oz!! We moved to SIZE 2 diapers! She's a JOY! She isn't perfect though... with the holding all of the time, late day/night fussiness she keeps us on our toes. We admit that she is completely calling the shots in the house! She is still (THANKFULLY) sleeping well at night. It's just never fun to have to wake a finally sleeping, previously fussy baby every 3 hours around the clock. Thankfully at night she tends to go right back to sleep!! Let's keep it that way!! If she's going to fuss, keep it during daylight hours!
Starting next week it looks like we are going into a phase of ONE doctor appointment a week! We had 3 this week: eye doctor, pediatrician, GI doctor. Everyone is pleased with her progress! We have graduated to seeing the eye doctor every-other week now!! I asked the GI doctor how long Ella would have to be on the TPN (IV fluids), knowing that she can't give me a definite timeline. She did say that based on how well Ella is doing that she would be off "sooner than you (I) expect"! I still don't know what that means, but it made me happy!
DAY TIME HELP
It's time to start interviewing help. I do have an ad posted but have not had a chance to go through resumes and prepare myself for how I want to structure interviews. Mom plans to stick around after I go to work but I told her that we will still need part-time help. Given we have to feed Ella every 3 hours around the clock AND she needs to be held all day, that's too much for Grandma to do along with me working.
For longer term help I am back to seriously considering an Au Pair program due to the cost savings compared to a full time Nanny. An Au Pair is usually a young woman from another country who comes and lives with the family (us) and for a small salary provides 45 hours a week of child care. Since the cheapest I believe I can get a full time Nanny would be TWICE what I budgeted for Day Care, the Au Pair comes in a good bit less than a domestic Nanny.
We are getting by on "Contact Restriction". I do wake up every day and WISH we could get out and see friends, go places and do things with Ella. BUT... it's not worth it! For a baby as premature as Ella it takes the body/lungs/immune system up to TWO years to mature vs. a full term baby. Germs people carry that they never know about, never make them ill, could send Ella back to the hospital - or worse. Being home with Ella in isolation is a trillion times better than the alternative!
We are taking walks, going on drives and trying to maintain contact with the outside world. I have occasional appointments outside the house and mom had brunch with a friend who was in town this week. My sister and father are coming to visit this weekend. Besides the WELCOME extra hands it will also give Grandma and me an opportunity to get out. I have my Supper Club on Thursday night, if all works out (we have some other things in the works) then hopefully I can meet my girlfriends out for a while. I plan to send the family out one night over the weekend to give mom some time off.
There's more to write about, but I need to relive Grandma from a fussy girl, this will have to do for now. (Right now her fussiness is because she is gassy, which is unfortunately common for an SBS baby).