Sunday, August 30, 2009

Just getting started

My 38th birthday passed by a few weeks ago. I'm a never-married, successful professional woman. Over the years I've put more into my career than I have in relationships. I've had a few significant relationships over the years but none were Mr. Right. My heart has been broken and I have broken hearts. When it comes down to it, Mr. Adequate is not someone I want to roll the dice with for the long haul. I still believe in love, even though it had eluded me.

I've had this "back up plan" in my head for years, but of course hoped that I'd find my love first. At the same time, I've never been one to wait for a man to do what I want in life; I've bought a house (a few over the years), traveled extensively, invested, have dogs, etc. The biggest thing in my life I've been waiting in "him" for is to have a family.

I've just begun taking "baby" steps to start a family. I've had a physical, gone to the open house at a highly recommended endocrinology clinic and set an appointment with the doctor there. I'm reading everything I can get my hands on about being a "Choice mom" and talking with my friends about being a support system for me and my child.

Over the coming months I will dive into all of this and more: sharing my journey, what I am learning, the difficult decisions, the family concerns (parents & siblings), financial concerns, planning for the unexpected, the emotions...

Thank you for reading. As I work through a few of the concerns listed (family & job), I will remove the anonymous nature of my postings. I have also set up a twitter account. Follow me @singlemom2b


  1. Good for you! I'm a single mom by choice as well - just via a different route. I left my ex-fiance when I was early enough to have the pregnancy terminated, but I decided that I would be a single mama and a darn good one. I've chronicled that journey over at my blog if you want to see how I faired.

    I also just started a parenting resource website that I started to give single parents information that they need in a format that was inclusive of them. Hope it can be helpful to you.

  2. I'm with you. Also just turned 38, have the house and the career, but no man in sight... and I also recently started a blog about this whole single mom by choice thing! I'll be following your journey, and if you're interested you can find me at (I call it starfish envy because I'm painfully envious of creatures like starfish who can so easily reproduce by themselves. For us humans, it's a lot harder. Which is why it's good to remember that we're not alone in being alone in this...) Good luck!

  3. Thanks Single Mama NYC & Sarah Fain for your comments and letting me know I am by no means alone in this journey. I will be following your journey's as well.


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